SR 829: The 4 Hour School Day: Simplifying and Organizing Your Homeschool – Durenda Wilson, Part 2 (Best of)

“We feel guilty when we go through difficult times and we feel like we’re somehow shorting or cheating our kids’ education, when the reality is those are the teachable moments, those are the defining moments for our family, for us as a family and being more cohesive, but also for our kids’ education, understanding what it looks like to overcome obstacles together, to problem solve, to work through emotional things together that are difficult.” ~ Durenda Wilson

Watch this full interview on our YouTube Channel.

Yvette Hampton dives deeper with Durenda Wilson into her latest book, “The Four-Hour School Day“. Learn practical strategies for homeschooling middle and high school students, managing extracurricular activities, and ensuring your children are well-socialized. Get inspired by real-life success stories and the multitude of benefits that homeschooling brings. Perfect for homeschool parents seeking encouragement and effective techniques. Subscribe to stay updated on the best homeschooling tips and resources!

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Four-Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life, by Durenda Wilson

Raising Boys to Men: A Simple, Mercifully Short Book on Raising and Homeschooling Boys, by Durenda Wilson

The Unhurried Homeschooler: A Simple, Mercifully Short Book on Homeschooling, by Durenda Wilson

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Discussion Questions:

1. How does Durenda challenge traditional views on the time needed for effective homeschooling? Do you agree with her?

2. In the episode, Yvette emphasizes that “The Four Hour School Day” is valuable for both new and veteran homeschool moms. How can experienced homeschoolers benefit from reevaluating their school day?

3. Durenda discusses the importance of extracurricular activities and family time in homeschooling. How can families strike a balance between academic work and extracurricular involvement?

4. What are some ways parents can encourage their children to pursue their interests and hobbies as part of their homeschooling experience, as highlighted by Durenda in the episode?

5. Durenda mentions that family life is a strong foundation for children’s education. What are some practical ways homeschooling can strengthen family bonds?

6. According to Durenda, overcoming obstacles together as a family can teach children valuable life skills. Can you think of any personal experiences where this has been true for your family?

7. The episode touches on the importance of socialization. How can introverted parents ensure their children receive adequate social interaction without overwhelming themselves?

8. Yvette and Durenda discuss the importance of regular encouragement for homeschooling parents. What are some resources or methods that have been helpful to you in staying motivated and encouraged?

9. How can parents discern the balance between academic requirements and allowing their children to explore potential career paths during high school years, as discussed by Durenda?

10. What myths about homeschooling did Durenda and Yvette address in the episode, and how do these myths compare to your own experiences and perceptions of homeschooling?

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Hey everyone, this is Yvette Hampton. Welcome back to the Schoolhouse Rocked

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Podcast. Our family will be on the road some this summer and so we thought

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we would bring you some of our best episodes and we are excited to share

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best of episode from the Schoolhouse Rocked Podcast.

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Hey everyone, this is Yvette Hampton. Welcome back to the Schoolhouse

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Rocked Podcast. I am so glad that you joined me and

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Durenda again today. Or should I say Durenda and I. No. Durenda and me.

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What’s the right way to say that, Durenda? Oh, I thought you were gonna say

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Dr. Durenda. Oh, Dr. Durenda. That’s right. You’re Dr. Durenda,

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right? Have you listened to the previous.

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I’m going to make a certificate for you and it’s going to come from the

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University of Schoolhouse Rocked and I love it. You are going to be

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frame it. Put it in my sheet bed.

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Oh, good golly. We are talking this week about

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Durenda’s new book. It’s called the four hour school day and it just released

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yesterday, which is so very, very exciting. I am so excited for you guys to

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get this book. I have had mine for a couple of weeks and I’ve loved

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flipping through it. This book is not a book that’s just

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for new homeschool moms or those thinking about homeschooling. This is for

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veteran homeschool moms and those like myself who have been home. We’re going into

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our 11th year and this book is a huge encouragement to me.

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And it’s not just about like how do you get your, your

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day down to 4 hours of instruction? I mean, there’s so much

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homeschooling encouragement in this book and it’s, it’s really, I think you

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mentioned this during, it’s kind of a shot in the arm for it really is

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new and experienced homeschool moms alike. And so this

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is definitely a book that is for all homeschooling moms,

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whatever, whatever season you are in homeschooling,

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however long you’ve been doing it, so. Exactly. I mean, it could

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just be a confirmation that you are, you’re doing the right, you’re

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on the right track. And, you know, even if everything’s going pretty well, it sure

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helps to know. Okay, yeah, we’re on the right track. Yeah. All

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doing great. You know, we’re doing great. And just.

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You can’t get enough encouragement, right, as a homeschooling mom? No, no,

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no, we certainly can’t. It’s why parents go to homeschool

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conventions, which I know you’ve been speaking at, you know, for the last couple of

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months, and you’ve got several more coming up. It’s why we go to those things,

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and it’s why people listen to the schoolhouse podcast and other homeschool podcasts and

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stuff because we need the constant encouragement. It’s kind of

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like when you read your Bible, you don’t read your Bible all the way through

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one time, and you’re like, yep, got this check. Move on with your

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life. And I’m not saying that this book is the Bible. I’m just saying, you

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know, you have to continue to read your Bible over and over and over again

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because there’s always something new to learn and always more encouragement and conviction that’s

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needed. And I heard someone describe it, describe. Bible

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reading like this. And it’s true with, it can be true with other things, too,

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that it’s like a meal. Like, it’s like food. You don’t eat the

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meal and then you never need to eat again. Right. You need, you know,

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you need three meals a day every single day. And so it’s

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like, if you think of it more like food, you need nutrition. You need that

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on a regular basis coming in so that. So that you have

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what you need to put out. Absolutely. Well, the Bible is definitely

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our ultimate source for that. Absolutely. But for homeschool moms

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as well, you know, in addition to your bible reading, books like the four

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hour school day by doctor Durenda Wilson are a great

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encouragement. So, Durenda, I want to. I kind of want to

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finish what we were talking about on Monday. You were talking about

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what the day can look like for elementary school kids. I want to move

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into the middle school and high school years. And can you give kind

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of an overview of what a homeschool day might look like for

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kids of those ages? Okay, well, I can share what it looks

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like, what it looked like for our kids, and it wasn’t a

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whole lot different than the previous years, which

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it just sort of, the book work piece of it grew more so

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they were doing more like, you know, a few hours before lunch and maybe, maybe

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an hour, maybe two after lunch, depending on what they were trying to accomplish,

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what season they were in with their homeschool, with their high school journey.

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But then they also had activities, things that

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they did outside the home. Our kids

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were involved in drama with music and different things like

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that. This was where it always got a little dicey because we had a

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big family, we lived out in the country, so trying to schedule that kind of

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stuff, we had to be really careful that we weren’t

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muscling into our family time. And so one of our

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sort of things that we did was we made sure that

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pretty much every night we had dinner together. That was kind of

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our thing. Now, there were nights that the kids

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weren’t there, but for the most part, we always ate dinner together. I think that

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was a really important connection time for them from the time they were little, all

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the way through high school, where we could talk about their day and interact and

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reconnect as a family. So it was really about

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building margin into the day, even for our high

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schoolers, so that when they were,

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when they were in high school, the afternoons looked more like

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pursuing possible career paths,

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you know, pursuing their hobbies. Some of their hobbies ended up tying

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into their careers later on. And so we never really know

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what they’re going to be taking from the thing that they’re enjoying

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doing. Like, we had a son who was really interested in digital music, and I

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was praying about it because I was like, whoa, I don’t, I don’t even.

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What does that mean? Digital music, what does that even mean? You know? So I

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actually had to have him show me what he was doing. And so as I

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was praying about, it’s like the Lord said, well, when he’s done doing that

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every day, what is his attitude like? Well, he’s, he’s happy,

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his cup is filled. He’s, he can’t stop talking about

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it. And now he, then eventually he started to

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mentor younger kids who were trying to get into digital music. Just did it

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for free, honed in on these really great teaching skills

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that I just didn’t even know he had, which, of course, he’s used in a

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lot of other things since then. But it turns out that he

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edits all my podcasts. He actually does editing for other podcasts

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now part time, and he’s moving more into that

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now as an adult. And so we never know

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what those things are, if nothing else, he learned some skills,

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like teaching and interacting and just giving

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back to somebody else. I think that was really something. I really appreciated seeing him.

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He really saw the potential in these younger kids, and he knew what it was

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like to be a younger person and not have the resources and need the guidance,

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and they were so hungry for it, and he would spend the time doing that.

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And I just thought, you know, this taught him a lot about

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himself, what he was good at, what he was interested in.

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And it taught me a lot about, you know, not every

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hobby they do has to turn into a career

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again. They can glean things from it that will maybe feed into

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something else that they’re doing down the road. So I would say just be

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open and be. Be willing to think outside the box, because

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honestly, especially over the last year,

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year and a half, we can really say that the whole

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landscape of education has changed college and just

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rethink. Obviously, we want to probably give our kids a

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good transcript, and, you know, I talk about that on my podcast, but

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a good transcript and some sort of measuring tool for

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the next person. If they choose to do education, if

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they don’t go to college now, they may choose to do it in ten years.

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Who knows? So then they have what they need. But ultimately, at the end of

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the day, we really want to let them, as much as possible,

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pursue their interests and their hobbies and things. By then, they know the things that

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they’re passionate about. Most homeschoolers do. And if not, we continue

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to walk alongside of them and we continue to pray for them. We continue to

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encourage them. I think, you know, it’s. It’s a

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good idea to do a gap year after high school. Just be. But not

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to be sitting there doing nothing but going out and pursuing some different things. So

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I guess that was probably more than you were asking. No, no. That question.

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But I just wanted to paint a picture of the possibilities. You know, one of

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our sons, he did not. He just did not think that college was a

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good thing for him. He just didn’t feel like it was worth the money, the

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time, the effort. He went for a quarter, hated it, felt like it was a

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waste of time. So. But he’s gone online. There’s so much

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available online, Google certificates for it things and coding,

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and there’s so much university type things, certifications

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online that you can get for things you’re interested in. You can apprentice. We’ve got

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a son who has been apprenticing with a commercial plumber for the last

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two years. And he is just, he’s now starting to do

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stuff on the side and making a bunch of extra money doing that. And he’s

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gotten a couple. I mean, he’s just thriving and he’s not even 21 yet.

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And it started by letting him start working when he was in high school. Yep.

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Alongside of finishing his school, his high school career. So lots

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and lots of possibilities. Be willing to think outside the box and

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really be prayerful over what God might have for your kids

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as they approach those years. I love that because, as a matter of

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fact, I was just talking to Brooklyn, and she really, she’s 15,

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she’s going into her sophomore year, and she really has a

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heart to be married and have kids, and she just, that’s what she wants. She

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has no aspirations to go to college, which we’re fine with.

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She wants to be a wife and a mom. And so she’s talked a little

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bit about getting a job this summer, and I said, you know, why don’t you

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just reach out and start babysitting more? She’s babysat quite a lot,

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but I said, really focus on babysitting this summer because there’s no better

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preparation for babysitting or for mothering than to babysit

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other people’s kids. You know, she has a younger sibling, but, you know, Lacy’s ten,

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so she doesn’t have little tiny ones. And so

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I just felt like, you know, this is such a great opportunity for her. She

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doesn’t need to make money this summer. Right. You know, I’m at

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a nine to five Monday through Friday job. Right. She

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needs more practice and babysitting. Of course, you know, she can make money doing that

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as well. But it’s how God has wired her. It’s how he’s

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created her, and she loves being around kids and she’s good at it and so.

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Exactly. I love being able to do that with her. Yeah. And

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that’s absolutely a great thing to do. I

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honestly, you can make a very good living in

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childcare. Sure. I was a nanny and I

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job. I loved, you know, to me, I felt like I was preparing for, you

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know, my own kids, and it was great. I loved it. I got, I even

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took some little, some child development class. I went to nanny school. Nice.

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But I actually. Now you’re a doctor. I know. Now I’m a doctor. How’d that

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happen? So, you know, I went and. But they brought in

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the desire, my heart. Yes. You know, and so, yes, absolutely.

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childcare people are just looking for

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good people to take care of their kids. You know, they’re your most

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prized possession. It’s hard. Lots of potential there. So. Yeah,

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Apologia.com. We are back with Dr. Durenda

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Wilson. I want, I’m going to love that. That’s going to be so much fun.

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We’re just going to run with this doctor thing. That’s right.

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I’m going to get you a lab coat anyway. I know, right? Oh, here we

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go. Oh, we could have so much fun with this.

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Anyway, we are back with Dr. Durenda. I want to talk

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about some of the major benefits of homeschooling because I know you talk about that

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in your book and that is one of my favorite things to talk about because

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I just, I, it’s like parents need that reminder. We get so

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just stuck in the daily trudge of homeschooling

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and parenting and housekeeping and doing all the things.

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And sometimes I think we forget what all the benefits are

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because we’re just looking at the present day to day struggles

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that homeschooling and parenting and. And homemaking can

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bring. So let’s remind our moms of some

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of the great benefits of homeschooling their kids.

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Well, I think one of the things that was really interesting when I wrote my

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book, you know, you have an idea of where you’re going with

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things. You have an outline and all of that, but not until you write the

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book and you look back. And I realized that God had done

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something. He had threaded through the entire book a

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very strong principle of

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growing a strong, cohesive family. And I think what we

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have to remember is a solid family

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life teaches our kids so much, and

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that’s one of the, I would say that’s the top benefit of

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homeschooling our kids, because they can learn so

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many things just simply through family life. And

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I think we tend to underestimate that. And so that’s why

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I would want to bring that out to the surface and say, you know, you’re

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spending so much more time together than you would if

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your child were going to school. You’re living life alongside of each other. You’re

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overcoming obstacles together. And we know that that is the number one thing

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that binds families together. I recently did

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a workshop session at a conference called homeschooling through

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a crisis. And what I talked about was just

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exactly that. We feel guilty when we go through

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difficult times and we feel like we’re somehow shorting or cheating our kids

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education, when the reality is those are the

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teachable moments, those are the defining moments for our family,

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for us as a family and being more cohesive, but also for our kids

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education, understanding what it looks like to

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overcome obstacles together, to problem solve, to

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work through emotional things together that are

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difficult. One of the chapters in my book, I talk about overcoming

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obstacles, and I share, I think it’s about eight to

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ten different testimonies from that were written by

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moms who were facing what seemed like insurmountable

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obstacles, and maybe they could look at that obstacle and say, I shouldn’t homeschool, or

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I shouldn’t keep homeschooling, given these circumstances. So my

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question to them was, why did you keep homeschooling? Why did you keep

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doing it? And then what were the results? And

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they share that. And I’m telling you, by the time you get done reading these

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short little testimonies, you’re just like, we can do anything. We can get through

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anything. And I think that’s probably one of the, what I feel

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like are the major benefits. But the other thing is that we, as parents,

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get to live out that role fully

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because we’re with them all the time. We get to decide what’s best

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for our kids, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually,

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every day, day in and day out. And that is a huge, huge

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blessing. It’s a responsibility, but it is a privilege, and it’s

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one that God has given to us as a gift,

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and we need to steward it well, and we can really do that when we

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homeschool. Yeah. No one else knows your kids better than you do,

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and no one else can, can cater their education

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and their discipline and their character training and everything that comes with

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it for your kids. I mean, you can have the best teacher in the whole

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world. And I know that there are good teachers out there who truly love kids.

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no teacher in the world can focus on the

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things that your child needs like you because they don’t know them like you do,

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and they don’t have time. And so you would be, mom, it would

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be impossible. And quite honestly, as much as they

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love kids, they don’t love your kid as much as you love your

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kid, right? That’s absolutely right. So, yeah, it is one of the

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greatest benefits. And, you know, we talked in episode one about how we had done

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a, an episode on, on sibling relationships,

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and that’s one of my favorite things to talk about, and that’s one of, I

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think, the greatest blessings of homeschooling is the relationships that siblings

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have with one another. And we have a lot of influence

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over how kids get along or don’t get along when they’re under

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our roof 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Right. And probably,

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obviously, the biggest overarching benefit is being able to disciple

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our children and to give them a biblical worldview. So even

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as we’re walking through, through different crises, because I don’t know one homeschooling

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family out there who hasn’t gone through a crisis like it’s part of life. Yeah.

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Every family does, and every homeschooling family does. And

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as we walk through those things and those difficulties, it’s

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just such a blessing to be able to continually keep pointing

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our kids back to the Lord, and that becomes like

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a habit for them just from us doing it over and over and over

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again. And so that, that’s just, I mean, that’s the

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absolute number one best part. Absolutely. So those

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are the benefits. What do you think is the biggest

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myth that people have? Because there are many. Can you narrow it down?

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What do you think is the biggest myth parents have about homeschooling? It’s always the

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socialization thing. Do you think I’m still. I’m

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so over that after a quarter of a century

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when I tell people we homeschool and the first question they ask me is about

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socialization, especially when I had my kids with me and they

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actually had interacted with them, I just want to say, are you not connecting the

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dots here? These kids can talk to you as an adult, and they’re like

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six. You know, they’re totally comfortable. Do you hear their vocabulary?

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Do you hear their. About their comfort level? Right. Like, there’s confidence there.

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I feel like if you’re around homeschoolers long enough, you know

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this. You really can’t, you can’t keep them from talking.

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Like, they just keep talking. And so, I mean, there’s just. I think they’re some

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of the most outgoing, friendly, confident kids

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I have ever, ever met. Yeah. So I don’t feel, I know

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it’s not an issue, but there’s people who just

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still think it is. And honestly, here’s the end of the day,

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I don’t owe them an explanation. Right. That’s. I mean, that’s really

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something I talk about in my book. Look, it’s great if you want to just

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graciously interact, but at the end of the day, just

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smile and nod and go do your thing. Yeah. Do what God is leading you

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to do. Because at the end of the day, you play for an audience of

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one. That’s right. This one. That’s right. So you, you just

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move on. Just move on. Right. So, okay, I want to ask you a

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question on, on this type topic because I know and I’ve heard from

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other moms who are introverts themselves. Right.

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And their home bodies. And they want to be home. They don’t want to go

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out. They don’t want to get involved in the co op. They don’t want to

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meet up at the park for play dates. They don’t want to do, you know,

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the Bible studies. They don’t want to do the mom’s nights. They don’t want to

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do the things that oftentimes other moms want to do because they are just

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comfortable being home with their kids all the time. But that is not always

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the best or healthiest thing. Now, there has to be a balance because we

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also don’t want to become so busy that

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our kids are constantly away from the

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home. But how would you encourage the mom

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who is a true introvert and really

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struggles with socializing her kids? Because it

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still can be a thing. There still are kids who are

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very socially awkward. Of course, you’ve got kids in public and private

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school who are socially awkward as well, but it can

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hinder kids to keep them home all the time. I love what Heidi

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St. John says. Your kids will be as weird as you are. So at

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the bottom, the bottom line is you’re right. You’re absolutely right. That can

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be a legitimate concern. And I didn’t mean to like, you know, minimize that. But

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I mean, overall, I think homeschoolers are very

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successful at socializing their kids. Their kids are very social. They

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tend to be. But again, there are parents who are more

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introverts. I feel like in the early years, it’s not a big

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deal, really. If you just mainly want to be home with your

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kids, it’s not as important for them to get

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out and socialize. It’s more important for them to be with you, the

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warm, loving, engaged parent. You’re the best companion for them in those

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foundational years. Obviously, you know, every now and then

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it’s fun for them, but church is enough. If you go to church and they’re

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playing with kids there, or you maybe get together with a friend every now and

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then, that’s plenty. In those early years as they get older

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and they start to get into, I would, you know, lean

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more towards the middle school, especially that. That’s where it kind of

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becomes really obvious. And it depends on the kid. Some kids are more introverts.

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Some are more extroverts, need it sooner and more often or whatever, you, you get

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to judge that for your own kids. But having

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just, I think, a balance of making sure that

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you’re not getting drained as a mom because you’re an introvert.

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And maybe you’ve overcompensated for that by getting involved in too many

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things. Be prayerful about it. Be prayerful about what you’re involved in and

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how much you’re away from home, know what your limits are and balance

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that out with the needs of your child. You know, I think in junior high

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and high school especially, there really is a true

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developmental need for them to spend time with kids their own age. It’s kind

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of where they start to gauge a little more about who they

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are. There’s a lot going on developmentally during that time that I

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think it’s really, it really is helpful for them to spend time with

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friends and good friends, of course. And that’s always a conversation we can

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have based on proverbs and spending time

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with. You know, we become like the people we spend time with. Yeah.

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So you like what you see in these people, because if this is not who

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you want to be, then you shouldn’t hang out with them. That’s right. Kind of

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thing. And that doesn’t mean that we never interact with unbelievers or

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anything like that. We can absolutely interact, but we’re doing it

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not with this. This idea that we’re getting super involved with

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them and they become

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regular companions, I guess, is what I’m saying. So does that

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answer your question? Yeah, I think so. Okay. Okay. I think it’s just a. For

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an introvert, it might be sort of a segue into, you know,

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just a slow build from the time they’re young. Just kind of slowly.

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Yep. And you know what? Once they get to that age,

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especially if you trust the group of kids they’re with, you don’t have to stay.

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Right. You want to go in the car and read a book while they’re doing

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their thing, you can do that. So just adapt and adjust accordingly,

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because you do need to make sure that your needs are being met as well.

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Yeah. Amen. All right. Well, we are out of time. We will be back again

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tomorrow for the conclusion of this conversation, talking about the four

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hour school day and all things homeschooling. Find

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dorinda@dorindawilson.com dot. You can pick up the book through her website. It

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is now out, and you can get it in your own hands.

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Get one for yourself. Get one for a friend who is maybe just starting with

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homeschooling or who just has been homeschooling and maybe could use the encouragement,

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because we all can use the encouragement. So make sure that you pick up this

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book. Thank you, guys, for listening. We will be back with you tomorrow. See you

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then. Have a great day. Bye bye.

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Laughing in the face of imposter syndrome and coming to you from the

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epicenter of manly overconfidence. I’m your host, Garrett

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Hampton, and you are listening to the thinking dad.

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Even if we’re able to push the evildoers and the

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totalitarians back for another generation, maybe if we work really

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hard, maybe even two generations, if they’ve got the young people,

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it’s over. I often think about Daniel’s parents,

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who you don’t hear anything about, but they must have

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laid down the foundation for Daniel to be able to go into

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Babylon and not fall. We’re in that very

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beginning part of the cycle for tough times. We’ve been fat and happy. We’ve been

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enjoying the, you know, we’re lazy because we enjoy so much freedom. We got all

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these blessings, and why would you go do the hard work? And so for a

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long time now, decades, we haven’t had to do the hard work. We’ve been living

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on the fumes of previous generations, paying the price, and we got to raise

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the bar and say, I’m willing to give more of my life. That’s my time,

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more of my money. Of course, that’s our fortune. And more of my sacred honor,

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which is my reputation. I’m willing to put it all on the line. Every single

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one of us has to be willing to do that. Join us for the first

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